Communication: A Requirement For The Engine Of Marriage.

Every mind that discusses ideas
Each mind that discusses issues.
All minds that discuss persons.” Author Unknown.
   There was a minor feud between a couple some years ago. The marriage was a young one, about a year old.

   What was the bone of contention? Silence and avoidance! How?

   The woman’s complaint about the husband was,
“If I speak for one hour, he will not utter a word. Sometimes, he makes me feel as if am speaking to a dummy. If I ask many times (to press him for a response), he would on many occasions stand up and go away from me. For how long do I live a lonely life as a married woman with a husband under the same roof?”

    The few mediators on hand looked at one another’s face in unbelief because they know the husband as a lively man anyone would like to live with.
  What did the man of the house have to say?
   “What my sister and wife said was half-truth which is a close sister of a lie.
    Anytime she comes with any good idea, she is my witness, we can discuss heartily for hours. Everytime she raise any interesting issue, most especially sports, I am there for her for reasonable minutes. I can tolerate that.
   However, when it comes to a matter of discussing persons, I have no flare for that and that is my spouse’s pastime. I don’t discuss persons except if it is about how to improve or help that individual. But when it comes to discussing a fall, mistake, weakness, and such likes about others, I am not available. I don’t like using other people’s mistakes or weakness to cover mine. ”

  I have come across so many women with the same complaint as this woman in the write up, certain women have labelled their husbands as ‘dumb ‘.
   A woman once said that a reason she does not stay at her home was that there was no one to speak with although she lived with her husband who was self employed and works around his home.

   Do you suffer the same fate? Do you have one near you who have the same plight?

   One, try as much as possible to watch what you love to discuss. Examine yourself. It takes maturity to examine ones thoughts, words and deeds to identify one’s weakness for the purpose of making amends.
   People love to blame others for their own mistakes, are you one of them? You need to introduce a change. The Psalmist has this to say about himself,
   “Before I was afflicted, I went astray,
    But now I keep your word.
    It is good for me that I have been afflicted,
   That I may learn your statutes.” Psalm 119 :64,71

   Two, know who your husband is. It is seer foolishness to be a stranger to his likes and dislikes or to attempt to force a bitter pill of what he hates through his throat. You have been called to peace. Your home should be your place of rest. Don’t set it ablaze. Know what your man loves. Speak along that line to make him happy.

   Three, from that point, you can introduce what you love to discuss with him but not those things that will put him off immediately you raise them. Let him explain to you why he hates to discuss certain things with you. You can learn from him and he can learn from you, if you do not present your case with pride or with the intention to dominate him.
   Stay blessed and rapturable because the Lord is coming soon.
Scriptures quoted are from New King James Version of the Holy Bible.


About 4thlink

I am a full time Minister of God based in Nigeria,West Africa. I am an accountant turned preacher with grace to utter a word of comfort for every person that needs it. I have special interest creating a happy home because I hate divorce as God does.I've been used of God to heal broken homes & hearts. My hobbies include,reading,writing,photography & listening to good christian music.
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